What if he is jealous?
A lot of girls believe that the guy's jealousy is a highlight that pleasantly complements the expression of his feelings, and calms himself with ancient wisdom: “Jealous means loving.” There is, of course, a certain part of the truth in this statement, but jealousy is actually a destructive and destructive feeling. And sooner or later, a girl who is jealous asks herself: “But what if he is jealous? How to build relationships further? ”But about everything in order.
Why does jealousy appear
Own insecurity often creates jealousy in a guy. A man worries that he is not good enough for a chosen one, feels fear and lives in anticipation of when a girl (woman) will leave him. Despite the fact that such emotions are clearly not always manifested, and are often formed in the subconscious, they, however, prevent a person from building relationships. And only when the girl understands the true motives of jealousy of her boyfriend, she will be able to decide how to treat her.
Jealousy in men is manifested as an adequate response to the misbehavior of a girl,when she allows herself, sometimes in the presence of her fiancé (husband), to behave provocatively, flirts with other guys, a lot of time is in the company of other fans and so on. Therefore, when the relationship goes to a serious level, the girl should understand that from now on she will have to demonstrate her sexuality and looseness only to her chosen one. And do not confuse feelings of friendliness with cheeky behavior. This, first of all, will help avoid jealousy on the part of a loved one and, accordingly, the question: what to do if he is jealous?
Helps a girl in the fight against jealousy using the same weapon, becoming a fully mirror reflection of the behavior of her chosen one. It is possible that having been in the place of the “victim of jealousy”, the guy will improve and reconsider his behavior. If jealousy broke into your relationship for the first time, then it is better to immediately tell your chosen one that this is not what you were expecting when starting to date him. In the case when the guy can not cope with jealousy on his own, it is worthwhile to invite him to talk heart to heart, to go to a psychologist for advice, or to play role-playing games.
In moments of jealousy, you need to behave calmly and indifferently, as the response, especially in the form of an acquittal, is just what the jealous person expects from his beloved. But the best thing is to help the guy get rid of self-doubt, proving to him his love and that he is the most desired and best man for you.
How to deal with the pathological jealous
When a man is jealous without a reason, it means that you have got a pathological owner. Such a representative of the stronger sex can be dangerous if he is also the owner of an explosive nature. Occupation sometimes goes in step with jealousy and, if you notice even a slight shift in this direction, it is better to immediately break off the relationship. This should be done carefully, so as not to affect the partner's pride by a loud scandal. And even better to enlist the support of loved ones (father, brother) or strong friends that can scare a jealous man.
But what to do if he is jealous? Here are a few behaviors.
- Do not give a reason for jealousy and look for compromises.
- Discuss with your partner the situation that caused such a violent reaction. Convince him, through words and actions, that he is the most beloved and only man in your life.
- Learn to focus on your own feelings in moments of jealousy partner, and do not pay attention to his jealousy.
- Give your partner time to be alone and realize what is happening.
- In a conversation with the partner, try to explain to him that jealousy is an evil that destroys relationships. You should not "include" the dictatorial tone or the speech of the commander. It’s more intelligible to convey the essence to the partner if you back up the monologue with examples, gently and in detail revealing the essence and feelings.