WHAT TO DO with liars and manipulators: Psychiatric Tips
Advice from the famous psychiatrist Mark Goulston
Do not feel guilty
If we realize that we are suffering in a relationship with an irrational person, then it’s time to stop communicating - just leave.It is possible that a person will try to return you.
In this case, use the following principles:
- Do not react.Do not allow yourself to think that this person’s problems are your area of responsibility or the result of your mistakes. Repeat to yourself: "This is his point of view, his problem, his responsibility."
- Do not take risks.Do not give this person a single chance to distort your words and make you guilty or responsible for the situation.
- Do not reanimate.Do not allow situations in which a person tries to revive your relationship and start manipulating you again.
Test for personality disorder
A quick way to recognize a person suffering from a personality disorder, and it is easy to apply it even on a date, even if you are hired.
Ask your interlocutor what irritated, frustrated or disappointed him in the past, and try to understand who he considers to be guilty.
Does he say something like: "In vain I quit painting?"
Or puts it differently: “I wanted to be an artist, but neither my parents nor the first wife supported me”?
If a person suffers from a personality disorder, he will certainly begin to blame others - and it will be clear to you that you should not continue the relationship.
Do not communicate with psychos if you can.
Better think about whether you should continue to communicate with a person suffering from personality disorder.